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BOOK REVIEWS
BY FREDDY
COMPILED BY BASKER
GCES ALUMNI SOCIAL MESSAGE
Contents
1) 15 ‘SHORTCUTS’ TAKEN FROM 177 SELF-MADE MILLIONAIRES TO HELP ORDINARY PEOPLE BE RICH.
2) 15 lessons from the book “Who Will Cry When You Die?” By Robin Sharma
3) Here are 5 key takeaways from the book The Compassionate Achiever by Christopher Kukk:
4) 10 lessons from Think Like A Monk by Jay Shetty.
5) 10 lessons from Zero to One by Peter Thiel.
6) 𝟏𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝"
7) Here are some key takeaways from Leading with the Heart: Coach K's Successful Strategies for Basketball, Business, and Life by Mike Krzyzewski.
8) 8 Most Powerful Take-Away Lessons From "Ego is the Enemy".
9) 𝟏𝟓 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐕𝐬 𝐅𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐛𝐲 𝐃𝐫. 𝐃𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐝 𝐇𝐚𝐰𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐬.
10) 10 Lessons from the book "The Art of the Good Life" by Rolf Dobelli.
11) Top 10 lesson from the book – Be The Best version of yourself
12) 3 extra tips to be the best version of yourself.
13) The book "Leaders Eat Last" written by Simon Sinek talks about leadership in the workplace and offers some valuable lessons.
14) Quotes from the "𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐒𝐮𝐜𝐤𝐬. 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐔𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐓𝐨 𝐈𝐭." By Mohamed Zubair.
15) You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay.
16) Here are some key takeaways from Go It Alone!: The Secret to Building a Successful Business on Your Own by Bruce Judson.
17) 15 lessons from The Art of War by Sun Tzu.
18) The book "The Influential Mind" by Tali Sharot teaches us important lessons about influencing others effectively.
19) 10 lessons from The Happiness of Pursuit: Finding the Quest That Will Bring Purpose to Your Life by Chris Guillebeau.
20) 10 Lessons from the book “𝟏𝟎𝟏 𝐄𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐚𝐲 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤" by Brianna Wiest.
21) "The School of Life: An Emotional Education" by Alain de Botton offers valuable insights and lessons for personal growth and emotional well-being. Here are some key takeaways from the book.
22) Here are 5 key takeaways from the book The Compassionate Achiever by Christopher Kukk.
23) 15 lessons from the book “Who Will Cry When You Die?” By Robin Sharma.
24) 15 ‘SHORTCUTS’ TAKEN FROM 177 SELF-MADE MILLIONAIRES TO HELP ORDINARY PEOPLE BE RICH.
25) Here are the top 5 takeaways from the book Plays Well with Others by Eric Barker.
26) 10 LESSONS FROM MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS.
27) "The Ten Types of Human: A New Understanding of Who We Are, and Who We Can Be" by Dexter Dias is a thought-provoking exploration of human behavior and the complexities of the human psyche.
1) 15 ‘SHORTCUTS’ TAKEN FROM 177 SELF-MADE MILLIONAIRES TO HELP ORDINARY PEOPLE BE RICH.
1. They often read books.
Rich people prefer
learning instead of entertainment. Mr.Thomas wrote: 88% of wealthy
people will spend at least 30 minutes a day reading, the main content
is self-study and self-improvement topics. Most of them do not read
books for entertainment, rich people read books to seek knowledge.Mr.
Thomas found that they tended to read three types of books:
autobiographies of successful people, personal development or
training books, and history books.
2. They persist in
exercising.
76% of wealthy people persist in exercising every
day for 30 minutes or more. He wrote that exercise includes jogging,
short distance running, brisk walking, cycling, etc. Sports are not
only good for health but also support a lot for the brain. Exercise
can increase brain cells as well as glucose levels in the body, which
is the fuel of the brain. The better the brain will develop, the more
nutrients you will receive, the more intelligent you will become.
3.
They associate with other successful people.
Billionaire
Warren Buffett once said: "Make some good friends, keep them for
the rest of your life, but have them be people that you admire as
well as like". This saying means, make friends with good people,
keep them with you for a lifetime, but choose people that you both
admire and love. The people around you can influence your thinking
and habits, so choose your friends to play. If you're trying to
eliminate some bad habits, try to limit your time with the people who
contributed to the habit. If you're trying to create a good new
habit, meet and socialize with like-minded people. For example, if
you want to read more books, join a book club or group. Once you make
the decision to change your habits, you will find that there are many
people who share the same goals as you and are always there for
you.
4. They pursue their goals.
Pursuing your
dreams and goals can give you a lasting sense of happiness that will
eventually translate into great fortune. There are a lot of people
who make the mistake of following other people's dreams (for example,
their parents' dreams), rich people constantly improve their own
goals, persevere and passionately pursue them.
Passion makes work
more interesting. Passion gives you the ability to overcome failure,
mistakes and rejection, as well as persistence and focus, says
Thomas.
5. They persistently wake up early.
In Mr.
Thomas's research, more than half of self-made billionaires woke up
at least 3 hours earlier than work time. This is a method to deal
with unexpected situations in daily work, for example, meeting time
is too long, traffic is too long, having to go to school to pick up
sick children, etc. These unexpected situations will affect our
psyche, change our subconscious, will eventually make us feel life is
out of control. Waking up at 5 a.m., accomplishing the 3 most
important things at work that day, this will put you in control of
your life, giving you a sense of confidence that you are in control
of your own life.
6. They have multiple sources of
income.
“Billionaires who start from nothing will not rely
on a single source of income, they have many ways to make money. In
my research, 65% of rich people had 3 sources of income before making
their first million.” External income includes real estate rental,
stock investment, business ownership, etc.
7. They have
their own mentors.
Finding a personal mentor can help you get
rich faster. Success mentors not only positively influence your life,
they also put you on the path to success by teaching you what to do
and what not to do. They share with you valuable success experiences,
which either came from their mentors or from their own failures.
8.
They have a positive attitude.
Only with a positive mindset
can you achieve lasting success. According to research by Mr. Thomas,
positivity is the criterion of every self-made billionaire. The
problem is, most people can't determine whether their thoughts are
ultimately positive or negative. If you stop to listen to your
thoughts, feel their existence, you will realize that most thoughts
are negative. But only when you force yourself to look inwardly will
you become aware of the existence of these negative thoughts. Being
aware of their existence is the most important thing.
9.
They don't follow the majority.
We all want to fit in, fit in,
and be a part of society, so we'll often try not to stand out too
much. But the inability to set ourselves apart from others is the
reason why most of us can't have success. Successful people create
their own circles and pull others in. “You need to make yourself
stand out, then create your own circle for others to join you,”
says Mr. Thomas.
10. They behave politely.
Billionaires
have mastered an important principle of etiquette. If you want to be
successful, you also need to understand this principle. These
ceremonial actions include sending thank you notes, remembering
important dates, knowing table etiquette, and dressing for different
occasions.
11. They help others succeed.
Helping
others pursue their goals, dreams, and achieve success can also
benefit you. Without other successful people, success would be
difficult to define. If you want to be successful, the best way is to
help others succeed.
12. Every day they spend 15 to 30
minutes to reflect.
“Contemplation is the key to their
success.” This is what Mr. Thomas noticed. Rich people tend to
meditate for about 15 minutes in the morning. Every morning they have
to think about many issues such as career and finance, as well as
health and charity work.
13. They seek feedback.
Because
we fear criticism, we rarely seek feedback from others. But feedback
is very important in knowing if what you do is right or not. Feedback
helps you to understand if you are on the right track or not. If it's
criticism, good or bad, it's all important elements worth learning
and growing. In addition, the response can also cause us to change
our focus, experience new paths or careers. As Mr. Thomas shared:
“Information comes from responses that help you achieve business
success”.
14. They always start small.
What is
easier is to do first, start with small changes before facing big
changes. Starting new little habits like drinking more water each
day, reading a book before going to bed, etc. usually requires very
little effort. Changing small habits also includes cutting down on
existing bad habits, such as reducing time using social networks,
drinking less alcohol, etc. Lao Tzu has a saying that: “Every
journey of a thousand miles is a must. It starts with the first small
step.” Every great success comes from small actions.”
15.
They Plan New Habits.
One of the tricks that self-made
millionaires do is to write good habits on a daily to-do list and
stick to it every day. In his book "Change Your Habits, Change
Your Life", author Thomas says that up to two-thirds of
self-made millionaires maintain a daily do-to-do list.
Make a
specific list, so you'll be accountable for the new daily habit
you're trying to form. If it's simple habits or things you love,
after just a few weeks, you won't need to add them to your list
anymore, because they have become an integral part. From there,
create habits other than self-compassion....
2) 15 lessons from
the book “Who Will Cry When You Die?” By Robin Sharma
1.
The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your
thoughts.
2. The time we spend in solitude allows us to
connect with our deepest selves and find true joy.
3. Your
outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Cultivate peace and
happiness within to create a fulfilling life.
4. Surrender
your need for control and embrace the flow of life. Trust that
everything happens for a reason.
5. Take the time to express
gratitude for the small blessings in life. Gratitude opens the doors
to abundance.
6. Stop comparing yourself to others and start
focusing on becoming the best version of yourself.
7. No
matter how busy life gets, prioritize self-care. Your physical,
mental, and emotional well-being should always come first.
8.
Develop a daily routine that includes activities that nourish your
mind, body, and soul.
9. Spend time in nature regularly, as it
has a profound healing and rejuvenating effect on the soul.
10.
Choose to surround yourself with positive, supportive people who
inspire you to become better.
11. Don't wait for tomorrow to
pursue your dreams. Start taking small steps towards your goals
today.
12. Forgiveness is not just for the person you're
forgiving, but for your own inner peace. Let go of grudges and move
forward.
13. Success is not just about achieving material
wealth, but about living a meaningful and purposeful life.
14.
Embrace failure as a stepping stone to success. Learn from your
mistakes and keep moving forward.
15. Live each day as if it
were your last, for one day you will certainly be right.
3) Here are 5 key
takeaways from the book The Compassionate Achiever by Christopher
Kukk:
1. Compassion is not the opposite of ambition.
In fact, compassion can actually help you achieve your goals more
effectively. When you are compassionate, you are more likely to build
strong relationships with others, which can lead to support and
collaboration. You are also more likely to be motivated by a sense of
purpose, which can help you stay focused and motivated in the face of
challenges.
2. It is possible to be both compassionate and
successful. There is no need to choose between your compassion and
your ambition. In fact, when you are able to integrate these two
qualities, you can create a more fulfilling and meaningful life for
yourself and others.
3. Compassion is a muscle that needs to
be exercised. The more you practice compassion, the stronger it will
become. There are many ways to practice compassion, such as
volunteering your time, helping others in need, or simply being kind
and considerate to those around you.
4. Compassion is not
always easy. There will be times when it is difficult to be
compassionate, especially when you are faced with challenges or
conflict. However, it is important to remember that compassion is
always worth it. When you are compassionate, you are not only helping
others, but you are also helping yourself to become a better
person.
5. The world needs more compassionate achievers. We
live in a world that is often characterized by competition, conflict,
and division. However, there is also a great need for compassion.
When we are compassionate, we can create a more just, equitable, and
peaceful world.
I hope these key takeaways help you on your
journey to becoming a compassionate achiever.
4) 10 lessons from
Think Like A Monk by Jay Shetty.
1. Clarify your
identity. What are your values? What are your passions? What are your
goals? Once you know who you are, you can start to live a life that
is true to yourself.
2. Reverse negativity with
Spot-Stop-Swap. When you have a negative thought, spot it, stop it,
and swap it for a positive thought. This will help you to stay
focused on the good things in your life.
3. Get intimate with
fear, then detach. Fear is a natural emotion, but it doesn't have to
control you. Get to know your fear, then detach from it and let it
go.
4. Hone good intentions. What are your intentions for your
thoughts, words, and actions? Make sure your intentions are good, and
you'll be more likely to create a positive impact on the world.
5.
Live your purpose and dharma. What is your purpose in life? What is
your dharma, or your unique path? Once you know your purpose and
dharma, you can start to live a life that is meaningful and
fulfilling.
6. Improve your routines and habits. Our routines
and habits shape our lives. Make sure your routines and habits are
aligned with your goals and values.
7. Master the mind. The
mind is a powerful tool. Learn to use your mind to your advantage,
and you'll be able to achieve anything you set your mind to.
8.
Build self-esteem, not ego. Self-esteem is about knowing your worth.
Ego is about comparing yourself to others. Build self-esteem, and
you'll be more confident and happy.
9. Practice frequent,
specific and broad gratitude. Gratitude is a powerful emotion.
Practice gratitude regularly, and you'll start to see the good in
your life.
10. Understand and nurture relationships through
trust and connection. Our relationships are one of the most important
things in our lives. Make sure you nurture your relationships, and
you'll be surrounded by people who love and support you.
These
are just a few of the many lessons that can be learned from Think
Like A Monk.
5) 10 lessons from
Zero to One by Peter Thiel.
1. Competition is for
losers. The best businesses create new markets and new monopolies.
They don't compete with existing businesses.
2. Zero to one is
harder than one to n. It's easier to copy an existing product or
service than it is to create something new. That's why most
businesses are focused on incremental improvements, not breakthrough
innovations.
3. The best way to predict the future is to
create it. If you want to be successful, you need to be willing to
think outside the box and to take risks. You need to be willing to
create the future, not just predict it.
4. Focus on the long
term. The best businesses are built for the long term. They're not
focused on quarterly earnings or short-term gains. They're focused on
building something that will last.
5. Embrace failure. Failure
is a part of the innovation process. The best businesses are not
afraid to fail. They learn from their mistakes and they keep moving
forward.
6. Hire people who are smarter than you. The best
teams are made up of people who are smarter than the founders. If you
want to build a successful business, you need to be willing to hire
people who are better than you.
7. Build a strong culture. A
strong culture is essential for any successful business. It's what
defines the company and what keeps its employees motivated.
8.
Be patient. Building a successful business takes time. Don't expect
to become an overnight success. Be patient and persistent, and you
will eventually achieve your goals.
9. Be lucky. Luck is a
factor in any successful business. However, you can increase your
chances of success by being prepared and by taking risks.
10.
Be grateful. Be grateful for the people who have helped you along the
way. Be grateful for the opportunities that you have. And be grateful
for the success that you have achieved.
6)
𝟏𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬
𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝
𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞
𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐓𝐡𝐞
𝐌𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐢𝐫𝐞
𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝"
1. The millionaire mind is different from the average mind.
Millionaires think differently about money and wealth than most
people. They have a different set of beliefs, values, and attitudes
about money.
2. Millionaires are self-made. They did not
inherit their wealth. They created it through hard work, dedication,
and smart financial decisions.
3. Millionaires are focused on
their goals. They have a clear vision for what they want to achieve
in life, and they are laser-focused on achieving their goals.
4. Millionaires are good with money. They know how to make money,
save money, and invest money. They are also good at managing their
money.
5. Millionaires are risk takers. They are not afraid
to take risks, even if it means taking on debt or investing in risky
ventures.
6. Millionaires are persistent. They do not give up
easily. They keep trying until they achieve their goals.
7.
Millionaires are positive. They believe in themselves and their
ability to achieve success. They are also optimistic about the
future.
8. Millionaires are generous. They give back to their
community and to others in need. They also donate to charity and
volunteer their time.
9. Millionaires are happy. They are
content with their lives and they enjoy their work. They are also
grateful for what they have.
10. Millionaires are role models.
They inspire others to achieve their own dreams of wealth and
success.
Note:-
These are just a few of the many lessons
that can be learned from "The Millionaire Mind."
1. "The
happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your
thoughts."
2. "The universe is change; our life is
what our thoughts make it."
3. "Everything we hear
is an opinion, not a fact.
Everything we see is a perspective,
not the truth."
4. "The art of living is more like
wrestling than dancing."
5. "Very little is needed
to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of
thinking."
6. "The mind in itself has no needs,
except for those it creates itself."
7. "If it is
not right, do not do it; if it is not true, do not say it."
8.
"He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the
universe."
9. "Reject your sense of injury and the
injury itself disappears."
10. "The best revenge is
to be unlike him who performed the injury."
11. "No
man can escape his destiny, the next inquiry being how he may best
live the time that he has to live."
12. "Be content
with what you are, and wish not change; nor dread your last day, nor
long for it."
13. "Death smiles at us all, but all a
man can do is smile back."
14. "What we do now
echoes in eternity."
15. "The object of life is not
to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in
the ranks of the insane."
16. "You have power over
your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will find
strength."
17. "The soul becomes dyed with the color
of its thoughts."
18. "The only wealth which you
will keep forever is the wealth you have given away."
19.
"The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is
to look things in the face and know them for what they are."
20.
"The man who fears death will never do anything worth of a man
who is alive."
1. "The
happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your
thoughts."
2. "The universe is change; our life is
what our thoughts make it."
3. "Everything we hear
is an opinion, not a fact.
Everything we see is a perspective,
not the truth."
4. "The art of living is more like
wrestling than dancing."
5. "Very little is needed
to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of
thinking."
6. "The mind in itself has no needs,
except for those it creates itself."
7. "If it is
not right, do not do it; if it is not true, do not say it."
8.
"He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the
universe."
9. "Reject your sense of injury and the
injury itself disappears."
10. "The best revenge is
to be unlike him who performed the injury."
11. "No
man can escape his destiny, the next inquiry being how he may best
live the time that he has to live."
12. "Be content
with what you are, and wish not change; nor dread your last day, nor
long for it."
13. "Death smiles at us all, but all a
man can do is smile back."
14. "What we do now
echoes in eternity."
15. "The object of life is not
to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in
the ranks of the insane."
16. "You have power over
your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will find
strength."
17. "The soul becomes dyed with the color
of its thoughts."
18. "The only wealth which you
will keep forever is the wealth you have given away."
19.
"The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is
to look things in the face and know them for what they are."
20.
"The man who fears death will never do anything worth of a man
who is alive."
7) Here are some
key takeaways from Leading with the Heart: Coach K's Successful
Strategies for Basketball, Business, and Life by Mike Krzyzewski.
1.
Communication is essential for success. Coach K believes that
communication is the most important skill a leader can have. He
emphasizes the importance of clear, concise communication, as well as
the ability to listen to others.
2. Trust is the
foundation of all relationships. Coach K believes that trust is
essential for any successful team or organization. He emphasizes the
importance of being honest and trustworthy, and of building
relationships based on mutual respect.
3. Set clear
expectations and goals. Coach K believes that it is important to set
clear expectations and goals for everyone on the team. This helps to
ensure that everyone is working towards the same thing, and that
everyone is aware of their responsibilities.
4. Celebrate
success and learn from failure. Coach K believes that it is important
to celebrate success, but also to learn from failure. He emphasizes
the importance of reflecting on what went wrong, and of using this
information to improve performance in the future.
5. Be a
role model. Coach K believes that leaders should be role models for
others. He emphasizes the importance of setting a good example, and
of living by the values that you want others to live by.
8) 8 Most Powerful
Take-Away Lessons From "Ego is the Enemy".
1.
Pride finds expression in talking, humility finds expression in
listening.
Ego encourages you to
lift yourself and base your worth on nothing or false worth. On the
other hand, humility tells you how important it is to listen to
people.
2. Manage your pride.
"Your ego is not
some power you’re forced to satiate at every turn. It can be
managed. It can be directed."
As soon as you feel you are
becoming egoistic, boastful, and proud – you can tell yourself to
stop.
3. Your worst enemy resides within you.
"Wherever
you are, whatever you’re doing, your worst enemy already lives
inside you: your ego."
Since pride is in us, it is either we
feed it or starve it.
How you deal with your pride makes the big
difference.
4. Don’t be afraid to take the low
position.
Ego drives you to make certain decisions just to
massageit, causing a lot of problems along the line.
Do what other
people refuse to do simply because they think they are too important
to do it themselves.
5. Help people become great.
Ego
focuses on self.
Humility focuses on others.
If you want to
become great, you need to help other people become great.
That’s
just how the universal law works.
6. Become a student.
Ego
tells you not to listen to anyone.
As a result, you stop
learning.
When you become a student, you lay aside your pride.
You
admit to yourself that you don’t know everything.
So, if you
want to keep on learning, learn to be humble first.
7. Ego
sways us from our ultimate goal.
"We’re never happy
with what we have, we want what others have too.
We start out
knowing what is important to us, but once we’ve achieved it, we
lose sight of our priorities.
Ego sways us, & can ruin
us."
8. Ego is the wicked sister of success &
failure.
When you succeed, don’t give in to the temptation
of feeling important.
Don’t think that you are better than
others just because you have succeeded.
When you fail, don’t
feel like you have been cheated or u have been sabotaged.
9) 𝟏𝟓
𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥
𝐭𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦
𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐕𝐬
𝐅𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐛𝐲
𝐃𝐫. 𝐃𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐝
𝐇𝐚𝐰𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐬.
1.
Understanding the difference between power and force: Power is rooted
in truth, authenticity, and integrity, while force relies on
manipulation, coercion, and control.
2. Consciousness
affects the outcomes: Our level of consciousness and awareness
significantly impact our ability to exert power in any given
situation.
3. Power comes from
within. True power arises from self-awareness, inner strength, and
alignment with higher values and principles.
4. Overcoming fear
and ego: Fear and ego-based motivations diminish our power, while
courage and humility enhance it.
5. Higher levels of
consciousness bring greater power: As we evolve and raise our
consciousness, we tap into higher levels of personal power.
6. Integrity and
honesty as power: Acting with integrity and honesty cultivates a
strong foundation for personal power and influence.
7. Transcending
victimhood: Taking responsibility for our circumstances and choices
empowers us to create change and shape our reality.
8. Compassion and
empathy: Genuine care and understanding for others increase our
ability to positively influence and lead them.
9. The power of
intention: Setting clear and aligned intentions empowers us to
manifest desired outcomes and attract resources.
10. Cultivating
self-mastery: Developing discipline, self-control, and self-mastery
enhance personal power and effectiveness.
11. Aligning with
higher values: Living in accordance with core values and principles
empowers us to make ethical decisions and inspire others.
12. Letting go of
resistance: Releasing resistance and surrendering to the flow of life
opens up opportunities and expands our power.
13. The power of
presence: Being fully present and engaged in the present moment
enhances our ability to respond effectively and access higher wisdom.
14. Transcending
dualistic thinking: Moving beyond black-and-white, either-or thinking
expands our perspective and unlocks new sources of power.
15. Power as a force
for good: Recognizing and using power as a means to positively impact
others and contribute to the greater good.
THE TIMES THAT MATTER…
I grew up in Madras, not In CHENNAI*. Regardless of the
season (did we really have a season ?), our dinner time was at 7.30
PM and bed time was no later than 9.30 pm.
Eating out at a
restaurant was a huge deal, a rarity actually, that only happened
when it was a birthday or a very special occasion to celebrate.
There was no such thing as fast food on every other day.
Having a bottle of soft drinks and an ice-cream from the local shop
was a real treat reserved for special occasions. Pass your final
exams and you might have gotten a treat or new pair of Bata chappals.
We waited for Deepavali, Birthday and Pongal for a new set of dress.
Hung around at the Tailor shop on the eve of Deepavali to collect the
newly stitched dress.
You took your school clothes off as soon
as you got home and put on your ‘home’ clothes. There was no
taking or picking you up in the car or school bus. You either rode on
public transport, or just walked home. You got home did your chores
and homework before dinner.
Not everyone had a home phone and
much later, all private conversation were at PCO booth's. We used to
get telephone calls at our neighbors house. If our home had a
telephone, we had to be the messenger to many neighbors as when they
got a call.
We didn’t have Apple TV, AmazonPrime or
Netflix. Only few houses had TV, we used to flock them. We had only
Doordarshan to watch, Oliyum Oliiyum on Friday, Movie on Sunday for
which we waited all week. We need to constantly meddle with the
antenna to get Radio Ceylon, Rupavahini reception.
We played
Thirudan Police, Football, Cricket, Iceboy (actually it was “I
spy”) Goli, Kaathaadi, Pambaram , Gilli and any other game we could
come up with... At home, we stuck to Dhaayam , Paramapadam, Aadupuli
Aattam and Trade (Monopoly). Whoever was the Banker at Trade game had
underhanded dealings with selected few players.
Staying home
was a PUNISHMENT and the we hardly complained about getting bored as
we always had something to do outside. Half the time folks at our
home could identify us with our voice as we became tanned, dirty and
sweaty walking / playing or roaming in hot sun. Home was only to
shower, eat & sleep. We always walked or by cycled up to few KMs,
never took a rickshaw or a bus.
Life was good without insta,
facebook, twitter.
Followers were the friends standing behind you.
We played music via tape recorder (in few houses only) but
mostly with radio / transistor sitting around it. A walkman which
came later during college days was a luxury even for the rich.
We
were sent to ‘Nadar or Annachi Kadai’ for groceries. Chiclets,
then mittai, kamarcut etc was a commission / treat for our trip to
the shop. They all used to cost few paises.
We ate what Amma
made and packed in our lunch box. Bottled water was non existent. We
drank from the school water tap or from the earthen pot.
We
called our friends by shouting their names from standing outside
their house on the the street. We were welcome to all friends house
uninvited and food / snacks was served irrespective whether anything
was left for friend’s mother.
We weren't AFRAID OF
ANYTHING. We played until dark... sunset / darkness was our alarm to
return home. You could never enter home without washing your legs &
hands first.
If someone had a fight, that's what it was and we
were friends again a day later if not SOONER.
We were careful
with what we said around our elders because ALL of our aunts, uncles,
grandpas, grandmas, our parents friends and neighbors were all
extensions of our PARENTS and you didn't want them telling your
parents you’d misbehaved!
We respected our Elders, Police,
Firemen, Teachers, Doctors and Nurses or anyone with power. We never
questioned or answered back... ever!!!
We were made to stand
on the bench at school for not doing homework, no hair cut, being
late to class or being naughty. Our teachers freely spanked us when
we deserved it and our parents did not complain about it.
We
did not know what luxury was. Our simple lives were so good.
Those
were the good old days. All kids growing in Metros today will never
know how it feels to be a real kid . I loved my childhood and all
the friends I hung around with. 💖. Really miss those days.
Simple living, no anxiety, no worries about tomorrow.
10) 10 Lessons from
the book "The Art of the Good Life" by Rolf Dobelli.
1.
Success, in this day and age, too often means the unfulfilling
pursuit of money, power, and fame. But a good life cannot be measured
by these hollow metrics. It is found in the pursuit of meaning,
purpose, and happiness.
2. We are bombarded with information,
but starved for wisdom. In a world of constant distractions and
noise, the ability to think clearly and critically is a rare and
valuable skill.
3. Happiness is not a destination, but a way
of life. It is not found in material possessions or external
circumstances, but in the way we think, act, and relate to
others.
4. The key to a good life lies in the power of choice.
We may not always have control over the events that unfold around us,
but we always have control over how we respond to them.
5. In
order to achieve true success, we must learn to prioritize what truly
matters. It is not about doing more, but about doing what is most
important and meaningful to us.
6. Simplicity is the ultimate
sophistication. In a world that values complexity, we need to find
beauty and elegance in simplicity.
7. The pursuit of money
should never be the sole objective in life. It is merely a means to
an end, not an end in itself. True wealth lies in the richness of our
experiences, relationships, and the impact we make on the world.
8.
The quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our
thoughts. By cultivating clear and rational thinking, we can navigate
through the complexities of life with greater ease and joy.
9.
Change is inevitable, but personal growth is a choice. In order to
thrive in a rapidly changing world, we must commit to continuous
learning and self-improvement.
10. To live a good life, we
must cultivate gratitude and appreciation for what we already have.
It is the antidote to the constant craving and dissatisfaction that
plagues so many in our modern society
11) Top 10 lesson
from the book – Be The Best version of yourself
1.
Don’t delay.
Thinking about running that marathon?
Register today. Eager to pursue that degree? Start preparing your
application.
The first step to doing anything worthwhile is
beginning. And while it can be quite challenging to make that initial
leap, without kicking off the process, you won’t get anywhere.
2.
Prioritize what matters to you – not others
You’ll
never feel fulfilled if you live trying to meet someone else’s
expectations. Instead, channel your effort and energy toward what
matters to you.
That may be your family, travel, or reading a
good book regularly. Only you can determine what’s most important
to your happiness and sense of purpose in life.
Spend time
around people who encourage positive self-talk and make you feel good
about yourself.
3. Don’t sweat the small
stuff.
Unexpected events will undoubtedly arise as you go
through life. You’ll make errors and embarrass yourself. That’s
okay. Learn from your mistakes and setbacks and be grateful for the
progress you’re making.
4. Accept help from others.
Your
pride can hold you back from accepting praise and evolving. Try to
work against this, and accept help rather than denying it.
There’s
no need to travel the road to find your best self alone. BetterUp
coaches are here to help keep you accountable and provide the
perspective you need to carry on when the going gets tough.
5.
Take a break from social media.
Platforms like Twitter,
Facebook, and even Linkedin are deeply embedded in our lives. But
even as social media keeps us connected and informed, it can lead to
comparison and self-doubt.
If you find that scrolling your
feeds leaves you feeling down, not uplifted, try to establish
boundaries. And if you feel inadequate as you browse social media,
remember people tend to post their highlights, not low moments.
6.
Celebrate small victories.
The little things
matter.
Celebrating even small wins will give you the
motivation to keep going until you reach your final goal. If you’re
focusing on one big goal, try splitting it into steps so that you’re
seeing progress. Don’t forget to reward yourself as you hit
benchmarks and milestones!
7. Exercise daily.
Exercise
brings a wealth of positive effects to your everyday life:
According
to a study from 2017, exercise creates better blood flow to the
hippocampus region of your brain a region that’s crucial for your
memory. This translates into better working memory and focus. You’ll
be more productive and efficient.
• Physical activity also
clears your mind and delivers a rush of oxygen to your tissues that
helps your organs work more efficiently, which gives you more
physical energy.
• And, of course,
exercise makes a big difference to your long-term health, helping
prevent chronic health conditions such as type to diabetes and high
blood pressure, according to the Mayo Clinic. Your best self is a
healthy self.
8. Speak up for yourself.
Your
opinion is important. Stand up and speak up. It may be
nerve-wracking, but the more you practice, the more confident you’ll
feel.
9. Embrace failure.
In order to experience
growth,
you’ll need to get out of your comfort zone.
You’ll
never develop new skills, discover new interests and passions, or
experience personal growth without risks.
Failure can be the
best teacher if you take the time to reflect and do the work to learn
from it.
10. Stop looking for short-cuts.
These
don’t exist when it comes to self improvement. It takes patience
and hard work Period.
12) 3 extra tips to be the best
version of yourself.
As you strive toward authenticity
and being the best possible version of you, it’s wise to remember
the following:
1. Your values.
Whether
it’s family, trust, loyalty, hard work, or kindness, what you value
is at the core of what defines you. Your personal values define how
you view the world and others in it.
2. Your
strengths.
Everyone has both hard and soft skills, and
is capable of accomplishing a ton. Focus on developing your strengths
– these will help you overcome hurdles.
3. The
importance of self compassion.
You may feel like
you’re traveling in a completely different direction than others,
especially if you’re not where you want to be. Take a moment to
appreciate what your mind and body do for you. You’ll get there.
13) The book "Leaders Eat Last" written by Simon Sinek talks about leadership in the workplace and offers some valuable lessons.
Some of the key
lessons learned from the book are:
1. Leaders should put their
people first: Good leaders prioritize the well-being of their
employees, and they understand that it is their responsibility to
create a work environment that feels safe, secure, and inclusive.
2.
Trust is crucial: Strong relationships require mutual trust and
respect. Leaders who prioritize the needs of their employees and
cultivate trust are more likely to build a loyal and committed
team.
3. Create a sense of belonging: People need to feel that
they are part of something bigger than themselves. Leaders who create
an environment where their team members feel valued and respected
foster a strong sense of belonging.
4. Invest in your people:
Leaders who invest in the growth and development of their employees,
both personally and professionally, are more likely to have a loyal
and committed team.
5. Good leaders inspire action: Leaders
who set a good example themselves are more likely to inspire their
team members to take action and become leaders in their own
right.
Overall, the book "Leaders Eat Last"
emphasizes that leadership is not just about getting results, but
also about prioritizing the well-being and personal growth of those
you lead.
14) Quotes from the "𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐒𝐮𝐜𝐤𝐬. 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐔𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐓𝐨 𝐈𝐭." By Mohamed Zubair.
Life is a relentless rollercoaster of ups and downs, and it's time we accept that fact without sugar-coating it.
2. This book won't
give you false promises or quick fixes to all your problems. It's
about embracing the reality of life and finding strength within
yourself to navigate through its challenges.
3. Stop waiting for
someone else to make your life better; take responsibility and make
it happen yourself.
4. Success is not a
destination but a continuous journey filled with failures and
setbacks. Learn from them and keep moving forward.
5. Happiness is not a
constant state; it's fleeting moments sprinkled amidst the chaos.
Appreciate those moments and let go of the unrealistic expectations.
6. No one is exempt
from struggle, pain, and disappointment. It's part of human
existence. Embrace the difficult times, for they provide valuable
lessons for growth.
7. Don't dwell on the
past or worry excessively about the future. Live in the present
moment, for that's where true contentment lies.
8. Comparison is the
thief of joy. Focus on your own progress and celebrate even the
smallest achievements.
9. Change is
inevitable, and the sooner we accept it, the better equipped we are
to adapt and thrive.
10. Life's challenges
are not punishments but opportunities for personal development.
Embrace them with a positive mindset and a determination to overcome.
15) You Can Heal
Your Life by Louise Hay.
1. The Power of Positive
Affirmations: Louise Hay emphasizes the importance of using
positive affirmations to reprogram our subconscious mind. By
replacing negative thoughts and beliefs with positive affirmations,
we can improve our self-esteem and overall well-being.
2.
Self-Love and Self-Acceptance: The book highlights the
significance of loving and accepting ourselves unconditionally.
Louise Hay encourages readers to let go of self-criticism and embrace
self-love as a transformative tool for healing.
3.
Mind-Body Connection: A central theme in the book is the
mind-body connection. Louise Hay believes that our thoughts and
emotions can manifest as physical ailments. By addressing the
underlying emotional issues, we can support our body's natural
healing abilities.
4. Taking Responsibility for Our Lives:
The book stresses the importance of taking responsibility for our
thoughts, actions, and choices. By acknowledging our power to change,
we can create a more fulfilling and positive life.
5.
Forgiveness and Letting Go: Louise Hay advocates forgiveness as a
means of releasing negative emotions and moving forward. Letting go
of past grievances is crucial for personal growth and healing.
6.
The Impact of Childhood Experiences: The book explores the idea
that childhood experiences and beliefs can shape our adult lives.
Understanding and healing our inner child can lead to profound
emotional healing.
7. The Law of Attraction: Louise Hay
introduces readers to the concept of the Law of Attraction, which
suggests that like attracts like. By focusing on positive thoughts
and intentions, we can attract positive experiences into our
lives.
8. Gratitude and Appreciation: The practice of
gratitude is emphasized as a way to shift our focus from lack to
abundance. Expressing appreciation for what we have opens the door to
more positive experiences.
9. Embracing Change: Change
is seen as an opportunity for growth and evolution. Instead of
fearing change, the book encourages readers to embrace it as a
natural part of life.
10. Releasing Limiting Beliefs:
"You Can Heal Your Life" encourages readers to identify and
release limiting beliefs that hold them back from reaching their full
potential.
Overall, "You Can Heal Your Life" offers
a holistic approach to self-improvement and personal growth,
inspiring readers to take charge of their lives and create positive
change through self-love, positive thinking, and emotional healing.
16) Here are some
key takeaways from Go It Alone!: The Secret to Building a Successful
Business on Your Own by Bruce Judson.
1. The
importance of finding your passion. Judson argues that the key to
building a successful business on your own is to find something you
are passionate about and then pursue it relentlessly. He says that if
you are passionate about your work, you will be more likely to be
successful and you will also enjoy your work more.
2. The
power of outsourcing. Judson emphasizes the importance of outsourcing
tasks that you don't have the skills or time to do yourself. He says
that this will free up your time so that you can focus on the things
that you do best.
3. The importance of simplicity. Judson
says that the best businesses are simple to operate. He says that
this means having a clear and concise business model, and using
off-the-shelf products and services whenever possible.
4.
The importance of marketing. Judson says that marketing is essential
for any business, but it is especially important for businesses that
are run by one person. He says that you need to find ways to get your
message out there and to build relationships with potential
customers.
5. The importance of perseverance. Judson says
that building a successful business takes time and effort. He says
that you need to be prepared to work hard and to persevere through
setbacks.
17) 15 lessons from
The Art of War by Sun Tzu.
1. The supreme art of war is to
subdue the enemy without fighting.
This means avoiding conflict
whenever possible and only fighting when it is absolutely
necessary.
2. If you know the enemy and know yourself, you
need not fear the result of a hundred battles.
This means having a
deep understanding of both your own strengths and weaknesses, as well
as those of your opponent.
3. To win, one must not engage with
the enemy’s strength; attack his weakness.
This means focusing
your efforts on your opponent’s weaknesses, while avoiding their
strengths.
4. All warfare is based on deception.
This means
using deception to gain an advantage over your opponent.
5. If
you are able to determine the enemy’s dispositions while remaining
invisible yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single
casualty.
This means being able to gather intelligence on your
opponent without being detected.
6. The greatest victory is
that which requires no battle.
This means achieving your
objectives without resorting to violence.
7. Appear weak when
you are strong, and strong when you are weak.
This means using
deception to create an impression of weakness or strength, depending
on the situation.
8. If your opponent is secure at all points,
be prepared for him. If he is in superior strength, evade him. If
your opponent is temperamental, seek to irritate him. If he is at
peace, prepare for war. If he is reckless, take advantage of
it.
This means adapting your strategy to your opponent’s
strengths and weaknesses.
9. He who knows when to fight and
when not to fight will be victorious.
This means knowing when to
use force and when to avoid conflict.
10. If you are able to
identify the enemy’s five weaknesses, you will be victorious.
These
weaknesses are:
a) Undisciplined troops.
b) Disloyal
officers.
c) A cunning enemy.
d) An angry enemy.
e) An enemy
with a divided command.
11. The greatest glory in living lies
not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.
This means
that it is important to learn from our mistakes and to keep trying,
even when we fail.
12. The wise man is always prepared for the
unexpected.
This means being able to adapt to change and to be
ready for anything.
13. The best way to win a war is to
prevent it from happening in the first place.
This means using
diplomacy and negotiation to resolve disputes peacefully.
14.
The most important quality of a leader is not strength, but
character.
A good leader is someone who is trustworthy, just, and
compassionate.
15. The ultimate goal of warfare is peace.
War
should only be used as a last resort, and it should always be fought
with the goal of achieving a lasting peace.
The Art of War is
a complex and nuanced work that has been studied and debated by
military leaders and strategists for centuries. It is a valuable
resource for anyone who wants to understand the principles of warfare
and how they can be applied to achieve success in any field.
18) The book "The
Influential Mind" by Tali Sharot teaches us important lessons
about influencing others effectively.
1. Emotions play
a significant role in decision-making, making emotionally evocative
information more impactful than neutral information.
Example:
A charity organization uses heartwarming stories of individuals in
need to evoke emotions and encourage more donations.
2.
Effective communication involves storytelling, as narratives are
easier to remember and can create strong emotional
connections.
Example: A motivational speaker shares personal
anecdotes to inspire and engage the audience.
3. Understanding
and utilizing social norms can be influential, as people tend to
follow the behavior of those around them.
Example: An
environmental campaign emphasizes that many people are already
adopting eco-friendly practices to encourage others to do the
same.
4. Positive feedback and recognition can motivate
individuals to continue desirable behaviors.
Example: A
manager praises an employee's exceptional performance to boost their
morale and encourage continued excellence.
5. Utilizing loss
aversion, emphasizing the potential losses, can be more effective in
motivating action than highlighting potential gains.
Example:
An insurance company emphasizes the risk of not having coverage to
encourage customers to purchase insurance.
6. Asking the right
questions can influence responses and gain a deeper understanding of
others' perspectives and motivations.
Example: A salesperson
asks open-ended questions to better understand a customer's needs and
tailor their pitch accordingly.
Overall, these lessons from
"The Influential Mind" can help us become more persuasive
and effective communicators in various aspects of life.
19) 10 lessons from
The Happiness of Pursuit: Finding the Quest That Will Bring Purpose
to Your Life by Chris Guillebeau.
1. The pursuit is
the prize.
Happiness is not something that you find at the end
of a journey. It's something that you experience along the way. The
journey itself is what gives life meaning.
2. Don't be
afraid to take risks.
If you want to find your purpose, you
have to be willing to take risks. You have to be willing to step
outside of your comfort zone and try new things.
3. Don't
wait for permission.
Don't wait for someone else to tell you
what to do with your life. Don't wait for someone else to give you
permission to pursue your dreams. Just start pursuing them.
4.
Be creative.
There are no rules when it comes to finding your
purpose. Be creative in how you search for it. Find ways to pursue
your dreams that are unique to you and your gifts.
5. Be
persistent.
Don't give up on your dreams. Keep pursuing them,
even when it's hard. Keep pursuing them, even when you don't see
results.
6. Be patient.
It takes time to find your
purpose. Don't expect to find it overnight. Just keep pursuing it,
and eventually, you will find it.
7. Be grateful.
Be
grateful for the journey. Be grateful for the opportunities that you
have to pursue your dreams. Be grateful for the people who support
you along the way.
8. Be joyful.
Finding your
purpose should be a joy. If it's not, you're doing it wrong. Find
ways to pursue your dreams that bring you joy and fulfillment.
9.
Be love.
Ultimately, the pursuit of purpose is about love.
It's about loving yourself and loving others. It's about wanting to
make a difference in the world. So go out there and love the
world.
The Happiness of Pursuit: Finding the Quest That Will
Bring Purpose to Your Life is a book by Chris Guillebeau that
explores the power of pursuing your dreams.
20) 10 Lessons from
the book “𝟏𝟎𝟏 𝐄𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐲𝐬
𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐥
𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞
𝐖𝐚𝐲 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤"
by Brianna Wiest.
1. Don't confuse having a busy life
with having a fulfilling one.
2. Success is not always about
the end result, but the lessons learned and growth experienced
throughout the journey.
3. You don't have to have it all
figured out; you just have to take the next step.
4. True
strength is not found in perfection, but in vulnerability and the
willingness to ask for help.
5. Your worth is not defined by
your productivity or accomplishments; you are inherently valuable
just as you are.
6. The path to self-discovery is often messy,
but it is in the chaos that we find our true selves.
7.
Happiness is not found in external circumstances, but in cultivating
a positive mindset and finding joy in the small moments.
8.
Failure is not a reflection of your worth; it is an opportunity to
learn, grow, and try again.
9. The opinions of others do not
define you; you have the power to define and create your own
reality.
10. Self-love and self-care are not selfish; they are
necessary for living a fulfilling and balanced life
21) "The
School of Life: An Emotional Education" by Alain de Botton
offers valuable insights and lessons for personal growth and
emotional well-being. Here are some key takeaways from the book.
1.
Emotional intelligence: The book emphasizes the importance of
emotional intelligence in navigating the complexities of
relationships, managing our own emotions, and understanding others
better.
2. Self-awareness: It encourages us to engage
in self-reflection to become more aware of our own strengths,
weaknesses, desires, and fears. By understanding ourselves better, we
can make wiser choices and pursue a more fulfilling life.
3.
Emotional resilience: De Botton emphasizes the importance of
developing emotional resilience to cope with life's inevitable
challenges. Learning to embrace and manage difficult emotions enables
us to bounce back from setbacks and grow stronger through
adversity.
4. Empathy and compassion: The book
highlights the significance of empathy and compassion in cultivating
healthy and meaningful relationships. Understanding others'
perspectives, showing kindness, and practicing empathy deepens
connections and fosters a sense of belonging.
5. Emotional
education: De Botton argues that our education systems often
overlook emotional intelligence, leading to personal and societal
struggles. The book calls for incorporating emotional education into
formal education systems and encourages lifelong learning in
emotional intelligence.
6. Embracing vulnerability: By
embracing vulnerability, we can foster deeper connections with others
and allow ourselves to be authentic. It involves accepting our
imperfections, acknowledging our fears, and embracing our true
selves.
7. Building resilience in relationships: The
book provides insights into the challenges that arise in
relationships and suggests strategies for building resilience, trust,
effective communication, and understanding. It emphasizes that
relationships require continuous effort and commitment.
Overall,
"The School of Life" offers a guide to navigate the
complexities of our emotions, relationships, and personal growth,
providing valuable lessons and tools for a more emotionally
fulfilling life.
22) Here are 5 key
takeaways from the book The Compassionate Achiever by Christopher
Kukk.
1. Compassion is not the opposite of ambition.
In fact, compassion can actually help you achieve your goals more
effectively. When you are compassionate, you are more likely to build
strong relationships with others, which can lead to support and
collaboration. You are also more likely to be motivated by a sense of
purpose, which can help you stay focused and motivated in the face of
challenges.
2. It is possible to be both compassionate and
successful. There is no need to choose between your compassion and
your ambition. In fact, when you are able to integrate these two
qualities, you can create a more fulfilling and meaningful life for
yourself and others.
3. Compassion is a muscle that needs to
be exercised. The more you practice compassion, the stronger it will
become. There are many ways to practice compassion, such as
volunteering your time, helping others in need, or simply being kind
and considerate to those around you.
4. Compassion is not
always easy. There will be times when it is difficult to be
compassionate, especially when you are faced with challenges or
conflict. However, it is important to remember that compassion is
always worth it. When you are compassionate, you are not only helping
others, but you are also helping yourself to become a better
person.
5. The world needs more compassionate achievers. We
live in a world that is often characterized by competition, conflict,
and division. However, there is also a great need for compassion.
When we are compassionate, we can create a more just, equitable, and
peaceful world.
I hope these key takeaways help you on your
journey to becoming compassionate achiever.
23) 15 lessons from
the book “Who Will Cry When You Die?” By Robin Sharma.
1.
The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your
thoughts.
2. The time we spend in solitude allows us to
connect with our deepest selves and find true joy.
3. Your
outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Cultivate peace and
happiness within to create a fulfilling life.
4. Surrender
your need for control and embrace the flow of life. Trust that
everything happens for a reason.
5. Take the time to express
gratitude for the small blessings in life. Gratitude opens the doors
to abundance.
6. Stop comparing yourself to others and start
focusing on becoming the best version of yourself.
7. No
matter how busy life gets, prioritize self-care. Your physical,
mental, and emotional well-being should always come first.
8. Develop a daily
routine that includes activities that nourish your mind, body, and
soul.
9. Spend time in nature regularly, as it has a profound
healing and rejuvenating effect on the soul.
10. Choose to
surround yourself with positive, supportive people who inspire you to
become better.
11. Don't wait for tomorrow to pursue your
dreams. Start taking small steps towards your goals today.
12.
Forgiveness is not just for the person you're forgiving, but for your
own inner peace. Let go of grudges and move forward.
13.
Success is not just about achieving material wealth, but about living
a meaningful and purposeful life.
14. Embrace failure as a
stepping stone to success. Learn from your mistakes and keep moving
forward.
15. Live each day as if it were your last, for one
day you will certainly be right.
24) 15 ‘SHORTCUTS’
TAKEN FROM 177 SELF-MADE MILLIONAIRES TO HELP ORDINARY PEOPLE BE
RICH.
1. They often read books.
Rich people prefer
learning instead of entertainment.
Mr. Thomas wrote: 88% of
wealthy people will spend at least 30 minutes a day reading books,
the main content is self-study and self-improvement topics. Most of
them do not read books for entertainment, rich people read books to
seek knowledge.
Mr. Thomas found that they tended to read three
types of books: autobiographies of successful people, personal
development or training books, and history books.
2. They
persist in exercising.
76% of wealthy people
persist in exercising every day for 30 minutes or more. He wrote that
exercise includes jogging, short distance running, brisk walking,
cycling, etc.
Sports are not only good for health but also support
a lot for the brain.
Exercise can increase brain cells as well as
glucose levels in the body, which is the fuel of the brain. The
better the brain will develop, the more nutrients you will receive,
the more intelligent you will become.
3. They associate with other successful people.
Billionaire Warren
Buffett once said: "Make some good friends, keep them for the
rest of your life, but have them be people that you admire as well as
like". This saying means, make friends with good people, keep
them with you for a lifetime, but choose people that you both admire
and love. The people around you can influence your thinking and
habits, so choose your friends to play.
If you're trying to
eliminate some bad habits, try to limit your time with the people who
contributed to the habit. If you're trying to create a good new
habit, meet and socialize with like-minded people. For example, if
you want to read more books, join a book club or group. Once you make
the decision to change your habits, you will find that there are many
people who share the same goals as you and are always there for
you.
4. They pursue their goals.
Pursuing your dreams
and goals can give you a lasting sense of happiness that will
eventually translate into great fortune.
There are a lot of people
who make the mistake of following other people's dreams (for example,
their parents' dreams), rich people constantly improve their own
goals, persevere and passionately pursue them.
Passion makes work
more interesting. Passion gives you the ability to overcome failure,
mistakes and rejection, as well as persistence and focus, says
Thomas.
5. They persistently wake up early.
In Mr. Thomas's
research, more than half of self-made billionaires woke up at least 3
hours earlier than work time.
This is a method to deal with
unexpected situations in daily work, for example, meeting time is too
long, traffic is too long, having to go to school to pick up sick
children, etc.
These unexpected situations will affect our psyche,
change our subconscious, will eventually make us feel life is out of
control.
Waking up at 5 a.m., accomplishing the 3 most important
things at work that day, this will put you in control of your life,
giving you a sense of confidence that you are in control of your own
life.
6. They have multiple sources of income.
“Billionaires who
start from nothing will not rely on a single source of income, they
have many ways to make money. In my research, 65% of rich people had
3 sources of income before making their first million.”
External
income includes real estate rental, stock investment, business
ownership, etc.
7. They have their own
mentors.
Finding a personal mentor can help you get rich
faster.
Success mentors not only positively influence your life,
they also put you on the path to success by teaching you what to do
and what not to do.
They share with you valuable success
experiences, which either came from their mentors or from their own
failures.
8. They have a positive attitude.
Only with a positive
mindset can you achieve lasting success. According to research by Mr.
Thomas, positivity is the criterion of every self-made
billionaire.
The problem is, most people can't determine whether
their thoughts are ultimately positive or negative. If you stop to
listen to your thoughts, feel their existence, you will realize that
most thoughts are negative. But only when you force yourself to look
inwardly will you become aware of the existence of these negative
thoughts. Being aware of their existence is the most important
thing.
9. They don't follow the majority.
We all want to fit
in, fit in, and be a part of society, so we'll often try not to stand
out too much. But the inability to set ourselves apart from others is
the reason why most of us can't have success.
Successful people
create their own circles and pull others in. “You need to make
yourself stand out, then create your own circle for others to join
you,” says Mr. Thomas.
10. They behave politely.
Billionaires have
mastered an important principle of etiquette. If you want to be
successful, you also need to understand this principle.
These
ceremonial actions include sending thank you notes, remembering
important dates, knowing table etiquette, and dressing for different
occasions.
11. They help others succeed.
Helping others pursue
their goals, dreams, and achieve success can also benefit you.
Without other successful people, success would be difficult to
define. If you want to be successful, the best way is to help others
succeed.
12. Every day they spend 15 to 30 minutes to
reflect.
“Contemplation is
the key to their success.” This is what Mr. Thomas noticed. Rich
people tend to meditate for about 15 minutes in the morning.
Every
morning they have to think about many issues such as career and
finance, as well as health and charity work.
13. They seek
feedback.
Because we fear
criticism, we rarely seek feedback from others. But feedback is very
important in knowing if what you do is right or not.
Feedback
helps you to understand if you are on the right track or not. If it's
criticism, good or bad, it's all important elements worth learning
and growing.
In addition, the response can also cause us to change
our focus, experience new paths or careers. As Mr. Thomas shared:
“Information comes from responses that help you achieve business
success”.
14. They always start small.
What is easier is to
do first, start with small changes before facing big changes.
Starting new little habits like drinking more water each day, reading
a book before going to bed, etc. usually requires very little
effort.
Changing small habits also includes cutting down on
existing bad habits, such as reducing time using social networks,
drinking less alcohol, etc. Lao Tzu has a saying that: “Every
journey of a thousand miles is a must. It starts with the first small
step.” Every great success comes from small actions.”
15. They Plan New Habits.
One of the tricks
that self-made millionaires do is to write good habits on a daily
to-do list and stick to it every day. In his book "Change Your
Habits, Change Your Life", author Thomas says that up to
two-thirds of self-made millionaires maintain a daily do-to-do
list.
Make a specific list, so you'll be accountable for the new
daily habit you're trying to form. If it's simple habits or things
you love, after just a few weeks, you won't need to add them to your
list anymore, because they have become an integral part. From there,
create habits other than self-compassion....
25) Here are the
top 5 takeaways from the book Plays Well with Others by Eric
Barker.
1. Friendship is essential for happiness.
Studies have shown that people with strong social connections are
happier and healthier than those who don't.
2. Quality
relationships take time and effort. You can't expect to have close
friends overnight. It takes time, effort, and vulnerability to build
deep connections with others.
3. Be a good listener. One of
the best ways to connect with others is to be a good listener. Really
listen to what people have to say, and show that you care about what
they're saying.
4. Be supportive. Be there for your friends
when they need you. Offer your support, listen to them vent, and help
them through tough times.
5) Be forgiving. Everyone
makes mistakes. If your friend does something to hurt you, be willing
to forgive them. Holding on to grudges will only hurt you in the long
run.
Here are some additional takeaways from the book:
A.
The quality of your relationships is more important than the
quantity. It's better to have a few close friends than a large group
of acquaintances.
B. It's important to have friends from
different walks of life. This will help you to broaden your horizons
and learn new things.
C. Don't be afraid to be yourself.
People will appreciate you for who you are, flaws and all.
D.
Make time for your friends. Life can get busy, but it's important to
make time for the people you care about.
26) 10 LESSONS FROM
MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS.
John Gray
states that most common relationship problems between men and women
are a result of fundamental psychological differences between the
sexes, To better express these differences; the author uses
metaphors: that men and women are from distinct planets—men from
Mars and women from Venus—and that each sex is acclimated to its
own planet's society and customs, but not to those of the other.
1.
Men and women communicate differently.
Men communicate to
solve problems, while women communicate to connect and feel
understood. This can lead to misunderstandings and conflict.
2.
Men need respect, while women need love and appreciation.
When
men feel respected, they are more likely to feel loved. When women
feel loved and appreciated, they are more likely to feel
respected.
3. Men and women have different needs in a
relationship.
Men need to feel independent and in control,
while women need to feel connected and supported.
4. Men
and women have different ways of dealing with stress.
Men
withdraw when they are stressed, while women talk about it. This can
lead
to further misunderstandings and conflict.
5. Men
and women express their love differently.
Men express their
love through actions, while women express their love through words.
This can lead to disappointment and resentment.
6. Men need
to learn to listen to women.
Listening is one of the most
important things a man can do to make a woman feel loved and
appreciated.
7. Women need to learn to respect men's need
for space.
Men need time to themselves to recharge and
de-stress.
8. Men and women need to learn to compromise.
No two people are exactly alike, so there will be times when you need
to compromise to make the relationship work.
9. Men and
women need to be patient with each other. It takes time to learn
how to communicate and connect effectively.
10. Men and
women need to love each other unconditionally.
This means
loving each other for who they are, flaws and all.
Men and
women are both human beings.
We all have the same basic needs and
desires. We all want to be loved, respected, and appreciated. When we
can see each other for who we really are, we can create relationships
that are truly fulfilling.
27) "The Ten Types of Human: A New Understanding of Who We Are, and Who We Can Be" by Dexter Dias is a thought-provoking exploration of human behavior and the complexities of the human psyche.
In the book, Dias
presents a compelling framework that categorizes individuals into ten
distinct psychological types based on their behaviors, experiences,
and responses to various life circumstances.
Here's a summary
of the book:
In "The Ten Types of Human," Dexter Dias
delves into the diverse spectrum of human experiences and behaviors,
seeking to provide a deeper understanding of who we are as
individuals and what drives our actions. The book introduces ten
distinct psychological types, each defined by specific traits,
reactions, and thought patterns. These types are:
1. The
Alpha: These individuals are driven by ambition, competitiveness,
and a desire for power and success. They often excel in leadership
roles but may struggle with empathy.
2. The Beta: Betas
prioritize connection, relationships, and emotional intelligence.
They excel at forming deep bonds with others but may struggle with
assertiveness.
3. The Gamma: Gammas are creative,
innovative thinkers who embrace change and adaptability. They may,
however, wrestle with feelings of insecurity and self-doubt.
4.
The Delta: Deltas are characterized by their resilience and
ability to endure hardship. They may find it challenging to express
their emotions openly.
5. The Omega: Omegas are
introspective and thoughtful individuals who seek meaning and purpose
in life. They may grapple with feelings of isolation and
melancholy.
6. The Sigma: Sigmas are independent,
non-conformist individuals who value autonomy and self-sufficiency.
They may struggle with social connections and fitting into
traditional roles.
7. The Tau: Taus are empathetic and
compassionate individuals who prioritize the well-being of others.
They may, at times, neglect their own needs.
8. The Iota:
Iotas are characterized by their adaptability and resourcefulness in
the face of adversity. They may struggle with indecision and a lack
of direction.
9. The Kappa: Kappas are analytical and
logical thinkers who excel in problem-solving. They may have
difficulty expressing their emotions and connecting with others on an
emotional level.
10. The Lambda: Lambdas are
spontaneous, energetic individuals who embrace novelty and
excitement. They may find it challenging to maintain stability and
routine.
Through engaging narratives and case studies, Dias
explores each type in depth, showcasing real-life examples of
individuals who embody these characteristics. The book goes beyond
traditional psychology to offer a multifaceted perspective on human
behavior, shedding light on the complex interplay of genetics,
upbringing, and life experiences that shape who we are.
"The
Ten Types of Human" ultimately encourages readers to develop a
deeper self-awareness and understanding of others, fostering empathy
and compassion in their interactions. It challenges conventional
notions of personality and offers a fresh lens through which to view
the rich tapestry of human diversity and potential.